Conflict Management

This week I had a conflict with my youngest son, he is 19. He still lives at home, dropped out of college and quit his job. We are constantly arguing about his education and employment. He gets very defensive when I mention him going back to college or getting a job.

I have learned this week to incorporate cooperative strategies by striving to produce a solution that will benefit the both of us (O’Hare & Wiemann, 2013). We sat down and came up with a compromise that seems to benefit the both of us. He decided not to go to college right now but will keep an open mind about it. He also agreed to get a part-time job and I will continue to help him with the insurance on his car, as long as he is working.

The three R’s (respectful, reciprocal and responsive) may positively impact communication by using them as a guide to communicating. The three R’s were very beneficial in our conflict resolution. We have learned to respect each other’s opinion. I had to learn to respect him not going to school and he had to respect my needing him to pay some of his bills. We were both very responsive to our agreement.

Reference

O’Hair, D. & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication: An introduction. Boston, MA:
                Bedford’s/St. Matin’s.  

Evaluating My Communication Skills

After taking the evaluations of myself I realized better of how I communicate. I am an empathetic listener and very trusting of others. I can have a conversation and not attack the individual person but the position. I do well speaking in small groups but am very uncomfortable in a large group or in front of others, this one I knew. My husband did the evaluation of me and he knows me so well, we came up with the same answers. My colleague, my teachers’ assistant, came up with similar scores as well, but she did see me as being more confident in speaking in public. Both saw me as an empathetic listener and an overall respectful communicator. I have learned that I need to have more courage in speaking in public and that I am very self-conscious about how I speak.

Communication with Others

I do feel that I communicate differently with different groups of people. When I am at home with my family or friends my communication is more relaxed and I don’t worry about how I sound. When I am with the families I work with, children and colleagues I am more aware of how I sound and try to take their feelings into consideration. At home we just cut up and carry on not worrying about what the other thinks because that is who we are. I have even had friends ask us how my husband and I have been together for so long, since we were 15 years old, if we don’t get along; I just have to laugh and say we do get along this is just how we do it.

Professional I try to listen better and give good vibes from my body language. As an early childhood educator it is important for me to put aside any biases while communicating with others, to have an open mind and to be considerate of their beliefs and feelings.

Communication Within A Television Show

I recorded an episode of “How I Met Your Mother”, my son watches it but I have never sat down to see what it is about. With the sound off I observed that this was a group of friends, they laugh, hug and meet at a local restaurant. They seem happy with each other and seem to like each other’s company. They seemed to be very comfortable and relaxed talking to each other. There seemed to be many relationships among this group of friends but I could not tell who was with who except for one couple that was always holding hands and sitting together.

With the sound on I was not surprised to find out that I was right about the one couple, but I thought maybe there was another on but it turns out that they are just friends. There conversations were for the most part pleasant but the one character Barney seems to be the trouble maker.

If I had been watching a show that I knew well I do believe that my assumptions would have been more on target because I would have known who was with who and about their relationships.

Communication

When thinking of who demonstrates competent communication within a particular context my center director, Linda was the first one to come to mind. She has a way of explaining what she is trying to by using examples and descriptive speaking. She uses ideas and personal situations that others can relate to and have a better understanding.

I hope to be able to communicate as well as she does with our families, staff, and in everyday conversations.

This is very effective with her communication with parents as well.

Professional Hopes and Goals

As I look back over the past eight weeks and begin to think about working with children and families who come from very different and diverse backgrounds I hope that I can offer an environment that has trusting relationships, love, compassion, patience, respect, and consideration for all children and families that I come in contact with. This course has really touched my heart in so many ways.  One hope that I have when I think about working with children and families who come from diverse backgrounds is that each child and family is provided with the services they need in order for their children to be successful in school and within the community.  I also hope that each child will receive a fair and equal education regardless of their social identities.

A goal of mines when it comes to issues of diversity, equity, and social justice is to see anti-bias education for children, parents and all education people who deal directly with children and families. I think that if better understanding of culture and diversity was to happen, better communication will transpire between everyone.

I would like to thank all my colleagues because I have learned something from everyone. I enjoyed reading the discussions, blogs and learning about how others have dealt with situations similar to me, it made this experience somewhat easier. 

Welcoming Families From Around the World

Working as an early childhood teacher in head start, I chose to India as the country of origin from where the family is coming from. I chose India because this year in my classroom I have a new student who has come to us from India.

In order to prepare myself to be culturally responsive towards this family I will and have:

1.      I will try to learn some simple welcoming words in their language, and knowing how and when to use them.

2.      I would make them feel comfortable fixing food that is similar to what the family eat or are used to. We have worked closely with the family to make sure that this child gets the foods he is used to as well as informing the about getting him to try new things. In addition this family is vegetarian so we have been challenged to get him to eat.

3.      I will learn what the family values and structure, culture and traditions are in order to know how to support and incorporated these into the curriculum.

4.      Add items to the classroom setting such as dress up clothes, food in the play kitchen and toys and/or puzzles, etc. that correspond with India’s culture.

5.      Sitting down with the family before the child beings and discuss topics such as likes/dislikes, beliefs, traditions, and their expectations of their child and work together to meet these goals.

I hope that these preparations will benefit both the family and myself because I will be able to include the cultural norms in the class curriculum and involve the other students in the understanding of the new culture.  I hope this will make the family and child feel welcome and as eager to learn about our culture as we are theirs.